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What If You Had Never Been Born?


I love to go the movies.  My wife Tammy and I see a lot of movies, usually one a week. My all-time favorite movie is It’s a Wonderful Life, starring Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed. I watch the film each Christmas season, you know, to see if Clarence will get his wings.
In the film, George Bailey, played by James Stewart, is a man who has given up his dreams of traveling the world in order to help others, and has recently fallen on hard times. Because his Uncle Billy has misplaced the bank deposits and inadvertently given them to the evil Mr. Potter, George is in serious trouble, and could end up going to prison. He realizes that he is worth more dead than alive (due to having life insurance) and tries to commit suicide. But his guardian angel Clarence, who had been sent down to save George, and thereby earn his angel wings, jumps into the river and saves George. Depressed and hopeless, George tells Clarence that he wishes he had never been born. But Clarence tells him that he must not ever talk like that, and then takes George on a journey showing him what life in Bedford Falls would have been like had he never been born. He is able to see just how much he has impacted the lives of the people in his small town, and just how different their lives would have been if he had never been born.
You may be depressed and hopeless, just as George was. Or, you may think that your life hasn’t made much of an impact. Perhaps you are thinking that the world would be better off without you. If that sounds like you, consider just what impact you’ve had on others in these three areas of your life. Family – For example, if I had not been born my parents would have had only one son, rather than two. My brother and sister would have had one less sibling. My nieces and nephews would have had one less uncle to play with them. My wife Tammy would have married someone else. What about you? You may have had children and perhaps now even grandchildren. If you had not been born, they would have been deprived of a wonderful parent or grandparent. In addition, your spouse would have not experienced the love that you have given them.
Church – If I had not been born, my church would never have had me as an elder or small group leader. If you had not been born, your church would not have had you as a Sunday School teacher for the youth, or a worker in the nursery. They would have been deprived of your gifts and the times when you were such an encouragement to others, or led someone to the Lord.
Work – If I had not been born, hundreds of employees would have had a different leader in the organization that I had worked at. Perhaps they would have had a better leader, but never a person who cared more about them as individuals. If you had not been born think of all of the results that would not have been achieved for your organization. But much more than that, think of the personal impact – kindness, character, caring, friendship – that those who would have worked with you would have missed out on.
It’s easy to think that our lives don’t matter. But that’s not true at all. The Lord fashioned you in a unique manner and blessed you with wonderful gifts and talents. Don’t ever think that it would have been better had you never been born.  Instead, give thanks to the One who provided you with your wonderful life. And perhaps you too can be a Clarence to others who are hurting within your areas of influence.

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.  Jeremiah 1:5a

13 For You formed my inward parts;
    You knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are Your works;
    my soul knows it very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You,
when I was being made in secret,
    intricately woven in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed substance;
in Your book were written, every one of them,
    the days that were formed for me,
    when as yet there was none of them.  Psalm 139:13-16 (ESV)

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.  Ephesians 2:10

Author: Bill Pence

I’m Bill Pence – married to my best friend Tammy, a graduate of Covenant Seminary, St. Louis Cardinals fan, formerly a manager at a Fortune 50 organization, and in leadership at my local church. I am a life-long learner and have a passion to help people develop, and to use their strengths to their fullest potential. I am an INTJ on Myers-Briggs, 3 on the Enneagram, my top five Strengthsfinder themes are: Belief, Responsibility, Learner, Harmony, and Achiever, and my two StandOut strength roles are Creator and Equalizer. My favorite book is the Bible, with Romans my favorite book of the Bible, and Colossians 3:23 and 2 Corinthians 5:21 being my favorite verses. Some of my other favorite books are The Holiness of God and Chosen by God by R.C. Sproul, and Don’t Waste Your Life by John Piper. I enjoy music in a variety of genres, including modern hymns, Christian hip-hop and classic rock. My book Called to Lead: Living and Leading for Jesus in the Workplace and Tammy’s book Study, Savor and Share Scripture: Becoming What We Behold are available in paperback and Kindle editions on Amazon.

2 thoughts on “What If You Had Never Been Born?

  1. In my case, that answer takes on a whole new dimension. There are people alive today, who would be dead if I weren’t around. The reverse is also true that there’s people dead today because I’m here. There’s also people who faced justice and may not have done so if it weren’t for me. There’s also people who I reached for Christ because I was here, and maybe a few who will never go for him because of me. but as Clarence points out to George, when a person is gone, he or she leaves a very big hole.

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